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She Comes First

The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

by Ian Kerner

Published 2004240 pagesISBN 978-0-0605-3825-5

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay -- simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and illustrated step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

Beyond its central premise, the book can be read through the connected lenses of Romance, Nonfiction, Fiction. Those themes offer useful points of attention as the characters, ideas, or world develop, especially where the book complicates the expectations of its primary category.

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Romance · Nonfiction · Fiction

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Reading lengthA shorter read240 pages in this edition
Publication eraModernFirst published or edition dated 2004
Primary categoryRomanceAlso cataloged under Nonfiction and Fiction
ISBN-13
978-0-0605-3825-5
Language
English
Edition record
OL9232873M
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A comfortable full-length choice for steady daily reading.

Begin with its place in Romance, then notice where the book resists that label.

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Read for connection, not completion.

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Three questions to carry with you

  1. What must each character learn before the relationship can become believable?
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  3. Does the emotional resolution feel earned by the choices that came before it?

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