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Be Honest--You're Not That Into Him Either

Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve

by Ian Kerner

Published 2006192 pagesISBN 978-0-0608-3406-7

Avoid the booty call blues and get the love -- and sex -- you deserve!Come on. Admit it. He may not be that into you, but were you ever really that into him? He was never "the one," but you lowered your standards and dated him in the meantime. Why? For any number of reasons: you were lonely, you were horny, you thought dating him was better than being alone, all your friends are getting married -- you name it. And before you knew it, you got hung up on the jerk. Go figure.The world is full of sensational women, but in today's market there are too few good men to go around (or so it appears). Now Dr. Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and author of the smash hit She Comes First, explores the battlefield of sex, hook ups, go-nowhere relationships, and the dismal dating treadmill, simultaneously arming women with a sharper set of insights and the tools for change. With humor and sincerity, Kerner shows women how to break the cycle of dating defeat and use the power of sex to find love, "with a great guy who is into you." So raise your standards -- and reach for the love you deserve!

Beyond its central premise, the book can be read through the connected lenses of Romance, Nonfiction, Fiction. Those themes offer useful points of attention as the characters, ideas, or world develop, especially where the book complicates the expectations of its primary category.

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Themes to notice

Romance · Nonfiction · Fiction

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Warm tone · Steady pace

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Reading lengthA shorter read192 pages in this edition
Publication eraModernFirst published or edition dated 2006
Primary categoryRomanceAlso cataloged under Nonfiction and Fiction
ISBN-13
978-0-0608-3406-7
Language
English
Edition record
OL9237387M
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Works well for a focused weekend or a few concentrated sittings.

Begin with its place in Romance, then notice where the book resists that label.

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Read for connection, not completion.

Mark one passage that sharpens the book's central concern and one that complicates it. That tension often reveals more than a quick summary.

Three questions to carry with you

  1. What must each character learn before the relationship can become believable?
  2. How do work, family, friendship, or identity shape the central relationship?
  3. Does the emotional resolution feel earned by the choices that came before it?

Editorial framework by Wesley Bryan, BookenDeX Founder and Editor.