How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk
'Insightful, eye-opening, practical andhighly readable, [this book] is for anyonewho's tired of dating and wants to finally find 'the one'.'--John Gray, author ofMen Are from Mars, Women Are from VenusDrawing on clinical research on love, attachment,and intimacy,How to Avoid Falling in Love with aJerkreveals how you can make smarter choices ofyour romantic partners and avoid heartbreak later. Based on Dr. John Van Epp's nationally renowned 'Howto Avoid Marrying a Jerk' workshops, this book presentshis trademarked Relationship Attachment Model(RAM), which breaks down the five dynamic bondingforces that influence a relationship. Van Epp helps yousimply and succinctly identify--and break--destructive dating patterns. Most important, he showsyou how to recognize 'The Right One' when he orshe comes along.
Beyond its central premise, the book can be read through the connected lenses of Romance, Self-Help, Nonfiction. Those themes offer useful points of attention as the characters, ideas, or world develop, especially where the book complicates the expectations of its primary category.
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Romance · Self-Help · Nonfiction
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Balanced tone · Steady pace
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- ISBN-13
- 978-0-0715-4842-7
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- English
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- OL9965128M
A more thoughtful way into this book
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A comfortable full-length choice for steady daily reading.
Begin with its place in Romance, then notice where the book resists that label.
Read for connection, not completion.
Mark one passage that sharpens the book's central concern and one that complicates it. That tension often reveals more than a quick summary.
Three questions to carry with you
- What must each character learn before the relationship can become believable?
- How do work, family, friendship, or identity shape the central relationship?
- Does the emotional resolution feel earned by the choices that came before it?
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