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Out of the Ordinary

Essays on Growing Up with Gay, Lesbian, and Transgender Parents

by Noelle Howey, Ellen Samuels, Margarethe Cammermeyer

Published 2000240 pagesISBN 978-0-3122-4489-7

Out of the Ordinary is a truly unique anthology, a groundbreaking collection of essays by the grown children of lesbian, gay, and transgender parents. Ranging from humorous to poignant, the essays touch on some of the most important and complicated issues facing them: dealing with a parent's sexuality while developing an identity of one's own; overcoming homophobia at school and at family or social gatherings; and defining the modern family. In a time when traditional family structure has undergone radical change, Out of the Ordinary is an important look at the meaning of love, family, and relationships, and will speak to anyone who has lived or is interested in non-traditional families. With a foreword by Margarethe Cammermeyer, Ph.D., author of Serving in Silence, and a preface by columnist and author Dan Savage, Out of the Ordinary also includes a resource guide of organizations that offer support for the hundreds of thousands of gay, lesbian, and transgender parents and their children. As the demographic increases, this book becomes an invaluable tool for learning, understanding, and acceptance.

Beyond its central premise, the book can be read through the connected lenses of LGBTQ+, Nonfiction, Fiction. Those themes offer useful points of attention as the characters, ideas, or world develop, especially where the book complicates the expectations of its primary category.

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LGBTQ+ · Nonfiction · Fiction

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Warm tone · Steady pace

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Out of the OrdinaryNoelle Howey, Ellen Samuels, Margarethe Cammermeyer
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Reading lengthA shorter read240 pages in this edition
Publication eraModernFirst published or edition dated 2000
Primary categoryLGBTQ+Also cataloged under Nonfiction and Fiction
ISBN-13
978-0-3122-4489-7
Language
English
Edition record
OL9521858M
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A comfortable full-length choice for steady daily reading.

Begin with its place in LGBTQ+, then notice where the book resists that label.

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Read for connection, not completion.

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