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When Dad Hurts Mom

by Lundy Bancroft

Published 2004364 pagesISBN 978-0-3991-5110-1

Can my partner abuse me and still be a good parent? Should I stay with my partner for my children's sake? How should I talk to my children about the abuse and help them heal? Am I a bad mother?Mothers in physically or emotionally abusive relationships ask themselves these questions every day. Here, a counselor reveals how abusers interact with and manipulate children-and how mothers can help their children recover from the trauma of witnessing abuse.This book, the first ever of its kind, shows mothers how to:- Protect children and help them heal emotionally- Provide love, support, and positive role models, even in the midst of abuse- Increase their chances of winning custody- Help their kids feel good about themselves

Beyond its central premise, the book can be read through the connected lenses of Self-Help, Mental Health, Nonfiction. Those themes offer useful points of attention as the characters, ideas, or world develop, especially where the book complicates the expectations of its primary category.

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Themes to notice

Self-Help · Mental Health · Nonfiction

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Content notes

Catalog signals suggest abuse or trauma, mental-health concerns. These notes may not be complete; consult a publisher or reader-supplied guide when detailed warnings matter.

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Reading experience

Warm tone · Steady pace

A comfortable full-length choice for steady daily reading.

Who it may suit

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A quick reading snapshot

Edition facts and catalog signals to help you decide whether this book fits what you want to read next.

Reading lengthA standard-length read364 pages in this edition
Publication eraModernFirst published or edition dated 2004
Primary categorySelf-HelpAlso cataloged under Mental Health and Nonfiction
ISBN-13
978-0-3991-5110-1
Language
English
Edition record
OL9516353M
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A more thoughtful way into this book

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Good to know

A comfortable full-length choice for steady daily reading.

Begin with its place in Self-Help, then notice where the book resists that label.

Try this reading approach

Read for connection, not completion.

Mark one passage that sharpens the book's central concern and one that complicates it. That tension often reveals more than a quick summary.

Three questions to carry with you

  1. Which ideas feel usable in your actual circumstances—not only persuasive on the page?
  2. Where does the author distinguish evidence, experience, and opinion?
  3. What would a small, humane experiment with one idea look like?

Editorial framework by Wesley Bryan, BookenDeX Founder and Editor.